I don’t want to talk about it [because I’ll cry], so here it is.
Thursday, March 23rd, my lawyer’s office reached out that we finally had a court date (go figure, scheduled at the last minute). After 6 months, the big day was finally here. You’d think I would’ve been ecstatic, but I was going to have to miss my daughter’s first track meet. My feather’s were ruffled, to say the least. She’s never participated in any extracurricular activities while in her father’s care and this was super important to her. Well, thank God for her stepmother who attended and filmed for me. [I appreciate you always]
So, the day had come where I’d find out whether or not the court would see past my ex’s narcissism and do what’s best for our children.
I had provided evidence of the neglect, of the lies, my ex-husband had shown/told over the past seven years. I’m no professional, so from what I was told, I may have provided too much information (i.e. photos, texts, emails, school records, etc.). However, I thought I finally had the upper hand and I’d prevail.
To my dismay, I did not. Yesterday, reports from several child protective service calls (calls I made, one he made – *eye roll*) were made available. I cannot disclose what was written, but i will say, no one except my lawyer and I could see that every person in his home had the exact same (planned) responses to their questions. Their words did not waver – lol. But in our home, we each responded differently. Strange. Can you say, morons?! Geeeez!!!
In the end, the judge decided that my daughter’s would remain in his care. My heart breaks because they will continue to suffer emotionally under his control. He treats them like girlfriends than the children they are. They will never learn how to be independent, strong, smart women who make good choices. It may seem a little unfair for me, the mother to say. But for people who know me, I have no filter. And when I used to keep things in, I’d eventually explode. So! my two young daughters are and will continue to be those kids you hate in public that misbehave. The kids that talk back to their parents [but it won’t fly in my home, that’s for DAMN sure]. The kids that grow to fast for their own good who start partying early and may even end up pregnant in high school.
“Daddy” will never be able to do what I can do. He will always be that abusive, self-centered, unintelligent, lazy, waste of space, he’s always been. Does it seem like I hate him? Well, no, not at all. Shoutout to YouTube for assisting him in raising my kids 90% of the time! Kudos!
I have decided to move on from filing motions after motions and wasting money when the court is full of judges who allow the abusive to thrive, the honest and forthright to fall.
Am I okay? Probably not. How can a mother accept that the father of her children kidnapped her daughters because he was heartbroken, moved them to 10 different schools, had them in hospitals for unnecessary issues, forced my “mom” title on 4 different women, and continues to lie about what he’s done and triumph in court, every time? I will never accept this, but I cannot and will not continue to do this. I love all of my children and I pray the two he has will one day open their eyes, stop being afraid of him, and realize what’s true.
Sadly, I will have to deal with the ongoing PARENTAL ALIENATION, being uninformed of activities they participate in, the verbal abuse via email – because fuck him if I ever answer a phone call/text from him again, the disrespect from my daughter’s who I will have to punish every time we are together instead of enjoying our time together. Despite it all, I will thrive, I will live. But for my eldest daughter, who resides with me, the emotional abuse from him will continue. The lies, the separation from her sisters he promotes. She will continue to be ignored and be told that she should call him instead of the other way around. And you know, I look forward to the day when he has to deal with her the day she decides to speak up about it. She will however, have the best life with me and her stepmother, regardless!
Alright. Okay. This is very all over the place, but so am I. Praying for patience, peace, and purpose. Now, back to my real life, with my wife and my eldest daughter.
Thanks in advance, for reading.